Holding the Man

Holding the Man

A love story for everyone.

Directed by Neil Armfield

Produced by Goalpost Pictures, Screen Australia

2015128 min7.7 / 10

A tender, melancholic portrait of a 15-year same-sex love story tested by discrimination, jealousy, and ultimately AIDS, grounded in warmth and deep connection despite inevitable loss.

Tim and John fell in love while teenagers at their all-boys high school. John was captain of the football team, Tim an aspiring actor playing a minor part in Romeo and Juliet. Their romance endured for 15 years in the face of everything life threw at it – the separations, the discrimination, the temptations, the jealousies and the losses – until the only problem that love can't solve tried to destroy them.

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  • Is Holding the Man sad? Yes, very. More sad than 92% of films.

  • Is Holding the Man scary? Barely. Less frightening than 84% of films.

  • Is Holding the Man violent? Not especially. Less violent than 74% of films.

  • Is Holding the Man easy watching? Somewhat. More comforting than 62% of films.

  • Does Holding the Man end with hope? Somewhat. More hopeful than 62% of films.

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Cinnamon Score

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There is almost nothing else like this.

Rarity69

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Surprise81

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Love93

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